If you’re like most brides, you love the idea of planning your own wedding. Who wouldn’t?! It’s fun, romantic, and gives you a sense of accomplishment in pulling together a spectacular celebration.
You might also think it’s too costly to get a planner to do what *you* can do. Am I right? That’s what I thought too. Then I got married, and only in hindsight did I realize what a mistake that was.
Here’ are the top 3 ways a planner can help:
1. We know the best vendors in your area, and the ones that will suit your budget.
It *seems* fun to source all these amazing vendors, but let me assure you – after a while, the novelty really wears off, and you’ll be begging for someone just to tell you who to hire.
Ever heard of ‘Analysis Paralysis’? Yup – too many choices, too much detail, and you’ll be stopped from moving ahead.
Asking your friends for referrals can certainly help, but the reality is, you may not have the same budget to work with, nor the same standards. Maybe they spent $8,000 on photography – a worthy investment, but is it in YOUR budget? Is there someone comparable in skill but at a lesser cost? Do your friends know ALL the vendors in the city? Friends can only suggest what and who they know. Sadly, this doesn’t make them experts, nor will their opinions make your day what YOU want it to be.
2. Create a workable plan DURING the planning process, as well as for your wedding day.
Planners can help create a workable and realistic budge, schedule, and task list for the types of things you need to get accomplished. They can attend vendor meetings to help iron out the details, and keep you on track so you’re not overwhelmed. Stress isn’t fun, and wedding stress is even less fun.
3. Manage your day.
This is probably has the biggest impact. Even if you choose not to hire any help during the planning process, you really need to think about how your day is going to get managed. Your venue coordinator will NOT be taking care of the things you’ll need managed. Their role is really focused on the venue, the food, the service being provided there (as it should be).
It’s not whether the lighting is right for the photographers and the DJ, nor is it to cue the MOH for her speech. Or call for a back up cake because a tiny guest thought it would be fun to hide under the cake table and inadvertently knocked it over. They’ll help clean up the mess, but it’s not their job to manage other vendors. And they don’t want to.
Have a ‘friend’ who can do it? Think again. As a “planner turned guest” for one friend’s wedding two years ago, I was more than willing to help manage some of the details. After all, it’s what I do, right?! I even hired a back up so I could enjoy the event too.
Let me assure you – with all my desire for everything to be perfect for her, the desire for me to enjoy the event as a ‘guest’ with my husband had a stronger pull once dinner started. And I’m a professional. How much more of a pull will your ‘willing friend’ have?
Yup – there I am. Enjoying my niece’s wedding. As a guest. I LOVED it! I learned from my friend’s wedding a few years back that it’s ok to just be a guest.
Your friends, who DON’T do this for a living will be far more swayed to enjoy the event than to take care of all the details that need to be managed. It’s just the way it is.
Your friends don’t want to work at your wedding. And really, do you want them to anyway? They should be enjoying selfies and dancing the night away with you, not worrying about managing place cards and money boxes.
So, what does it cost for someone to manage your wedding day? Less than you think. About 2% of your total budget. Less than your DJ, likely. Definitely less than your photographer. In fact, we should probably charge a whole lot more.
Planners *become* you – in essence. Everything you’ve worked so hard and planned for must be executed. But not by you. You MUST pass it off to someone you trust to manage all of the details in your stead.
A planner is the person you can unload everything onto. All the lists, all the details, all the desires you have for your day that you really can’t ask anyone else to fulfill – except someone you’re paying. Know what I mean?
For all the thousands of dollars invested into this one day, don’t you think it’s worth investing in someone to actually fulfill it for you? It’s risky to presume it’s all just going to “come together”.
What’s worse? There are not ‘do overs’. You get one shot at this very special day. So, for just 2% of your overall budget, it’s a no-brainer, really.
Consider being in touch with a planner in your area. Check their credentials. Are they certified in any way? How long have they been doing this? Have they managed weddings similar to yours in budget and guest size? Interview them. Find one you love, and love your day, stress-free… because of them.
Credit to Jennifer Maxwell